Happiness is blissful freedom. When you’re happy there is nothing wrong, no problem too big, no task too pointless. We can walk through almost any fire with a smile on our face and realize the world is not nearly as dark or as lonely as we thought the day before.
Most of us don’t get a lot of happiness in our lives, and the moments we are happy are shaded by the projects that aren’t finished, the weight we’ve gained, or the parking ticket we don’t have the time to fight in court. As Christopher Titus described it, we’re all just on a donut run, looking for that next bigger, shinier donut. We worry about the future, about our jobs, about our families, about not having the latest and greatest gadget, and just want to find something to fix it so we can be happy. We spend so much time being on the donut run that we never just sit down and eat donuts.
The human brain is an amazing thing. We can actually think forward and predict what might happen tomorrow. We can even be right on occasion. We can also organize our thoughts into compartments and then focus on a single compartment to the neglect of everything else. If you don’t do it often, it requires conscious effort, but you can focus on what is happening to you right now and to the exclusion of everything else.
We can choose to be happy.
For this moment, choose to set all the fears, doubts, debts, and pains aside. Then do something fun. Kiss your spouse, go for a walk outside, draw, paint, write, build a historically accurate 18th century French dining table or maybe use those pretty fonts you found on Pinterest to write something rude and crude. Enjoy it. Revel in it. Let it in past every guard you put up, and truly be happy like you used to when you were a kid.
Eat your donut.
It’s amazing how hard life can be when you never let go of all the pain and grief that keeps being piled on by it. It’s also amazing how long even a little unweighted happiness helps makes everything lighter. Then you can focus on getting something done so you can let it go. A little less weight to carry. And remember this the next time it hurts to keep dragging life over the rough path of time, and let it stop you in your tracks.
Eat your donut. It makes what comes after a lot easier to deal with.
See you next Wednesday.